Throughout my life, considering everything I’ve ever been through, never would I have thought that I would have developed the perspective that I have today. I would’ve never thought that I would see things the way I currently do and I can honestly say that not only has pain made me stronger but it has also developed my perspective in such a way that I have benefited tremendously because of it.
We all know that our challenges and struggles in life all have one common goal, and that is to bring us down; to rip and tear us apart in such a way that we don’t know if we’ll ever be the same again. Truth is, you won’t ever be the same again. Some struggles are so intense that it even goes as far as to causing us to not remember what we were like before it came our way. I have already experienced something so difficult that I couldn’t be my old self again. I could remember everything, to how I would act and think, but it’s like my mind and body co-ordination was totally out of tune. You get so caught up in the storm that you forget that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Yes, I know that the there’s-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel saying is so common and you have heard it over and over before but no matter what, there is always hope. There is always hope even when hope itself isn’t visible and I believe that that hope is what keeps you alive; it keeps you going. That little bit of hope is what enables you to survive. Isn’t it amazing how even when you’re having the worst possible day of your life, the smallest of things can some how brighten your day no matter how insignificant it may seem. In the same way, that little bit of hope can make a huge difference. Never let go of hope. Hold tightly and don’t let go, because letting go of hope is also letting go of yourself. A quote that I really love and actually live by is a quote by Haruki Murakami that says, When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person that walked in. That’s what the storm is about. We have already established that our challenges and struggles in life all want to break us down but what I have learnt is that having your being broken down is actually a blessing if you choose to make it one. Again, it’s about choices. In order for something to improve and to become better, it needs to be broken down so that it can be transformed. I believe in constant transformation. Your most compassionate and strong people in life are not the ones that have had it easy. They had to be ripped and torn apart so that they could learn the lessons that they have learnt to become the person they are today. As they say, nothing good comes easy.
Being broken down doesn’t mean giving in to the storm or giving up. It is simply viewing your situation with a perspective that enables you to be at peace with it, knowing that you are becoming a better and a stronger person at the end of the day. Don’t let the storm get the best of you. Rather get the best of the storm. I believe that difficulties are thrown our way not to ruin us, but to break us so that we can grow. Some of us just stop at “break”. We have a tendency to give up too soon; before the building takes place. I believe that every storm has a positive and a negative outcome, and we are given the freedom to make a choice; to choose which outcome plays out in our lives. And I want to encourage you to always allow yourself to grow, no matter what your situation is. Allow yourself to grow and always be hopeful. It doesn’t matter how much. All that matters is that you are hopeful and that YOU get the best of the storm. You are deserving of happiness. You deserve to smile every single day of your life. If you are not, be selfish with your happiness and make a change, because life is too short to be anything but happy and peaceful.