I’ve been on this sort of wild-goose chase to figure out what it is that I’d actually like to do with my life.
It’s equally scary and exhilarating to be forced into a position to make serious life decisions for yourself that could cost you once you’re done with school. I know for many (the ones that aren’t sure about their lives like me… hello fam :D) the very first question that pops into their heads is where to now? All one can think of is nothing other than the famous nou hoe nou? I would know since I’m considerably one of the best people to talk to about this, seeing that I have a front row seat to this newly discovered and very confusing phase of my very own “young adult” life. Things have been pretty much all over the place this past few months regarding interests, studies and future career research. It’s kind of funny how you’re suddenly expected or to be more accurate, FORCED to know who you really are in terms of your future. Now I know myself and myself knows I know myself, but I do not know myself enough to know what that one thing is that would make myself happy for eternity! If you go onto Google and type in How to know what to study after school, after retyping those exact words 20 000 different ways and failing miserably in the process, what you end up with after nearly visiting all those billions of search results is nuttttttingggg! Why? Because no website can tell you exactly what it is that would make you eternally happy. Yeah sure, they can help a little but having to answer 75 different questions about whether you like physics or whether you choose to stay home or go out with friends just to get a result is not only data & time consuming but pretty much not worth all the clicking effort either. Instead, what you should rather search for is questions that you haven’t asked yourself before so that you can change your thinking pattern by replacing it with a fresh one. But seeing that you’re such a sweetheart by already being here right now, I’d save you the effort, time and don’t forget data, by sharing the top five questions and mindful methods with you that helped freshen up my psychological routine to clear my path a little more, and might I remind you, I’m quite possibly the most difficult person in the world and the fact that this was the one thing that helped me out of the billions of other things says a lot.
Let us begin:
- Start by reminding yourself what your core values are and line them up with how you want to be remembered. Basically, what do you want people to remember you as? What picture do you visualize of your future self and want other people to see too when they think of you?
- Ask yourself, what are the little things that makes me happy? And no, I don’t mean coffee in the morning. Take the more “negative” approach by thinking about which working hours you’d prefer, pressure, stress, deadlines and any other similar details in that line.
- Nothing happens overnight so when you identify a possible dream, hold onto it and be patient, and remember, what sticks after a really good period of time is a winner. So keep that in mind and allow your subconscious to make a few decisions for you by giving your mind time to process information.
- Explore. I suddenly developed a major love for Home Decor and to find out if that was a possible future career, I decided to play around with online apps to give me the feel of the work and the environment. This is a great way to explore reality and it gives you immediate information of whether you’d be interested or not.
- What are your hobbies? Write your hobbies down and begin to research them all one by one, because if there’s one thing I know, it’s that one thing ALWAYS leads to another.
I’m still in the process of connecting all the dots, but what I can say for sure is that I am much closer to my dream than ever before. I hope this post helped you a lot and that it cleared up quite a few things. I wish you well on your journey in finding yourself and your dream and feel free to ask any further questions that you may have.
Lots of love